Happy Sunday, peeps. Please excuse this brief deviation from the Panglossian shallowness, then we’re back to scheduled programming.
Here are some awesome comments that some bored and grumpy people took time out of their collective useless days to leave on a post about C+C last week. Thought we’d spread the wealth and share them here:
I’m not a fan of putting up posts that have meanness or negativity in them—I just don’t feel it’s the venue, and I happen be one-half of who decides that. But these individuals’ comments are inciting the desire to reply with alacrity, even if they don’t deserve it.
So let us make this snappy.
You guys are clever. This is a blog about wine and fashion, Einsteins! Two pleasures that are just that: super shallow and fun—and God bless them! But if you’re here thinking you’ll get valuable information beyond that, you’re mostly wrong. There’s no agenda—we’re having fun, so get over yourselves. It’s an omnium-gatherum of our likes (and if you don’t like the same things, then to you, it might very well be garbage). We write C+C to take a load off—to have a good time, and to make ourselves laugh—and to share it with other people interested in the same stuff. C+C never claimed to be an anthropological fountainhead of today’s driving issues. I try not to stray much beyond our focus; doesn’t mean I’m not an intelligent person with a shitload of other things to talk about—and talk about with the same degree of authority. The blog has a narrow focus, but my brain does not—if you used your noggin, you’d get that. I mean, there are blogs out there strictly about typefaces. I dare you to assume the author only likes, sees, eats, or discusses typefaces, and nothing else. Anyway, we just chose to use this blog as a place to have fun, be upbeat, not take ourselves too seriously—to step away from everyday things in life that stress us out, piss us off, make us sad, or—and this includes bridge trolls like yourself—just tire us.
Rob re: wine. I’ve made this clear before but I can do it again. There are bottles of wine I try and don’t write about. I don’t get paid to review wines, so I spend a great deal of time and research culling from wine stores, producers, and auction sources locating great values and attempting to minimize the plonk, while sorting through the mediocre and/or overpriced. Corks is me creating my personal catalog of favorite wines, and of the moments and memories that go along with our enjoying them, while at the same time respecting the personal nature of the palate and the winemakers who put their hearts and souls into their work. There are blogs in almost every format: cheap wines, expensive wines, regional wines, 89-rated wines, all wines, and yes, great wines within a given class. I made a decision to follow my palate, wherever it takes me, and bring the special back home. It’s quite simple; I get truly excited when I hear that I inspired a reader to try something, and I would take no pleasure in creating a deterrent. The easiest thing to do is be critical, I just didn’t feel like it had a home on our blog.
I guess we learned a lesson here. And not just that people largely expect that because you’re writing a blog, it’s theirs to criticize you for putting yourself out there. Just when we think we’re putting too much of ourselves out there, it’s clear that it’s not enough to paint a full picture, and someone decides to pass judgment on available information and call us shallow. But, newsflash: we don’t want you to know everything about us. And 90% of it you won’t know. Guess you’re damned if you do, damned if you don’t.
We ain’t mad. This stuff? Not why we’re here. So don’t expect us to waste your time again with a post like this.
To everyone out there who in some way appreciates the time we spend on this fun outlet, we love you. You make it 100 times more fun.
-C+R
p.s. I can only imagine the barrage of nefarious comments received by Jane Aldridge and Tavi Gevinson, two smart, inspiring, and truly sweet bloggers who include far less of their personal lives in their fashion blogs than I do. I get nauseous thinking about the insolent shits leaving those jealousy-driven comments, and the girls having to read them, especially at that age. Kudos to Jane for turning her comments off, and kudos to Tavi, who I consider to be a brilliant success, and an inspiration—we could all learn from the way she navigates bad press.
p.p.s. I kept laughing while reading those comments, thinking of this clip:
You go Carey & Rob! I do not understand, nor do I choose to understand why people like “them” make such mean and rude comments. Look people you’re not forced to read the blog, if it’s not your cup a tea, keep on movin! Your need to leave these meaningless and mean-spirited comments is ridiculous! You don’t like it, well guess what we don’t like you!
Carey & Rob I know you will continue to do what you do, which many many readers of your blog LOVE and look forward to reading. And I am just one out of many!
Thank you for sharing your lives, opinions, thoughts, humor, fashion, and talents! It takes real guts to do so, and I respect and admire that of both of you!
xoxo….e
word!
You gotta get, that, dirt off your shoulder.
haha i love the haters, they keep me entertained.
fyi: this is the internet.
Yep. And I’m selling my soul on it!
There’s going to come a time where no one is going to want to be featured on a TU blog because the commenters are just that mean. Thanks again for letting us blog about you!
Good for you Carey and Rob! Well said, both of you.
I have said it before and I will say it again. GET A LIFE PEOPLE. If you don’t like it…don’t read it. But why you need to criticize others to make yourselves feel better is beyond me. I was brought up to say nothing at all if you don’t have anything nice to say, but I guess not everyone has the luck to be so well bred.
In the meantime, I feel lucky to that I have gotten to know you both (well virtually anyway). You make me smile and laugh everyday and forget about my own life for a bit. So for that I thank you. .)
HOW DARE YOU blog about delicious food, spring shoe trends, and do-it-yourself home decorating! Frankly, it just MAKES ME SICK.
🙂 y’all keep it up! C + C supporter 4 life!
We are sitting around the dinner table eating cookie dough balls and just read this aloud and are all laughing our asses off. Hearty, hearty laughter and thanks from us to you. In the words of Roberto, who has a mouthful of cookie dough and wine, “That is the awesomest comment I have ever f**king heard. You tell her. She can come drink wine at our kitchen counter ANY DAY.”
And there it is.
we love you.
good lord, people are lame. and apparently raised by packs of wolves.
🙂 xo
Dude. I miss you dearly. I owe you so many emails, it’s not even funny. If you haven’t noticed, I’ve been a little swamped—but that’s no excuse! Expect my Monday morning cup of coffee to be devoted to you. xo
Thank you for posting this we have received a few of nasty comments lately and I personally have thought of responding to them publicly like you two have. Mainly because the nasty comments we have gotten are always from ANONYMOUS, I love when people say something mean they can’t leave there name or email so you can’t respond or know who they are. Good for you! And we love your blog!. Maybe we will respond publicly too. I like that:)
XO
Valerie
abutterflybyday.blogspot.com
welll said. dust yer shoulders off… kick it to the curb. word. (and your taste in corks and caftans is unbeatable. just sayin’)
xo
justyna
As a “newbie” to your blog (just started reading last week after seeing it mentioned on a TU blog,) I felt compelled to comment on this post. I LOVE YOU GUYS. You are clever, humorous, insightful and just totally cool! F those haters and don’t stop doing what you’re doing!
How I love thee!
Thank you so much for the encouragement. It means a great deal. It’s pretty easy to get thrown off after something like that, but reading this reminds me to just keep having fun with it!
And of course, if you ever have any requests—things you’d like to see more of—feel free to send suggestions.
heart you back!
-C
My associate , Patrick Bateman, and I are both huge fans of C & C.
Seriously, you know you are gaining an audience when the haters come out of the woodwork to attack you.
Keep up the good work, and ESPECIALLY keep up the P.G. Wodehouse references, as I have a Drones Club match play championship match with Bertie Wooster, on Saturday morning. He offers a hearty, “Whato!,” to the both of you.
This has become one of my favorite blogs – a twice (or thrice!) daily read, along with Jane, Judy, and Tavi’s. You guys are a beautiful couple, sharing your beauty with the world. Keep it up. Y’all seriously rock.
Also, let me give a wassup to you, Rob the Wahoo. As a Virginia gal, living in Manhattan, you guys are a breath of fresh air. Keep on keepin’ it real. Keep on keepin’ on.
Your insightful, hilarious and beautiful posts keep me reading every single day. Keep on keepin’ on!
Hm.
Carey, I’ll admit I have little fashion sense. It’s one of those traits I’ve always wanted, but, thinking realistically, realize I never will have. I’m a jeans kinda gal, and sometimes I wonder about the fuss over clothes and haute couture. (This isn’t to say that I don’t love reading InStyle from cover to cover when I can).
So I feel perfectly justified and un-shallow declaring that fashion is not shallow (I’ve analyzed this a lot in my lifetime). I suppose it can be made shallow, but in and of itself, it’s not. I liken it to art, really. It’s one of the pleasures in life. Colors and structures and textures and sensations and, well … I’ll shut up because that’s about all I know of it.
This said, I love reading ALL of your blog. I love looking at your ensembles and treasures and admiring them. Probably because it’s so “un-me” and quite fascinating.
Is wine appreciation really that shallow? Farming wine grapes sustainably requires tuning in to earth … biology and chemistry and geology and climate and cycles and symbiosis (which is a part of biology, I think; crap, now I’m sounding dull and maybe shallow). And knowing the heart and soul our crew puts in at harvest and year round, I simply refuse to believe it!
I’m sorry about the sad, computer-humping nits with nothing more constructive to do with their time. It’s inane. Let the haters be haters. It’s ultimately their misery, not yours.
Keep up the beautiful blog. You bring joy to many.
Shani—(my turn!) I apologize for the lateness in getting back to you on this, because I was so touched. I think I was just beaten down by the whole thing and everyone’s kind words of support were lulling me into post-battle snooze. But you were so kind to take the time to write this and offer your thoughts—I should learn to get tougher skin, but that you appreciate what we put into it means a great deal.
While I agree with you—it’s not shallow, nothing is really shallow if you’re passionate about it—I was appeasing the critics, but you helped me see that I don’t need to submit to anyone!
btw…. computer-humping nits might be my favorite thing I’ve heard in years. Thanks for the encouragement, and ultimately, the much-needed smile and laughter.
we love you!!!
-C+R
I also forgot to mention that your writing is beautiful and your humor is lovely. I don’t know how I forgot to mention those … if you wrote like a shallow idiot, I wouldn’t read this blog.
This has had my wife and I laughing for the past couple days! We’ve been saying “sup haters” at every opportune moment. You two are fun – keep up the great work!
Hahaha. You guys are awesome.
-C+R
I’ve received a few nasty comments that focus on my “shallow” photography. I always giggle and hum this Jay-Z song:
haha–thanks for this. Listening to it now. Right on.
I only started reading your blog a week or two ago. But I’ll say it – I love you both! You make me laugh and I dig your clothes. I even like wine, although I know nothing about it. AND you walk your cat on a leash – which I adore.
There will always be people who think its easier to put someone down than put themselves out there. I feel horrible that other bloggers have felt the need to turn their comments off. What is the use of blogging if it doesn’t generate human conversations. A real shame.
Thanks for making the effort and sharing your passions and life with all of us. You’re awesome!
-Vicky